How to control your inner critic by checking in with yourself
Your inner critic. The sh*tty committee. Fred. Or perhaps Tabitha. Do you have a name for the voice in your head? The one that judges and gets a bit bossy?
This is the first of 3 posts where I’ll share ways of managing that voice, the one that often tells us we’re not good enough or we’ve messed up or not been 100% perfect.
This first method is to check in with yourself.
Literally for a minute, 3 or 4 times a day.
Set a reminder on your phone.
Stop what you’re doing.
Check in on your mood.
Where’s it at?
And ask yourself these 3 questions:
Am I stuck in my head?
Is the voice in my head in charge?
What’s the evidence for these thoughts?
Just like you refresh screens, use the check-in to reframe and refresh.
Take a step back from the busyness of your day.
Treat yourself as kindly as you would a friend.
Give yourself a break - perhaps literally.
Our days can be consumed with the doing, doing, doing.
Make time to step out of that and your mood will thank you for it.