What do you do when the rollercoaster of day-to-day life contains more downs than ups? When things are hard. Confidence is low. Stress is high. Your sense of self worth is paper thin. Your morale is low. And life comes and smacks you in the face.

What I’m about to share with you is what I call a ‘break glass in emergency’ exercise.

And it’s a brilliant way to boost your confidence, trust me.

I’m sharing it because a few people I know have lost their jobs.

But this isn’t just for people in this camp.

How to get your mojo back

This exercise can also help if you:

🟡 Have as much control and focus as a toddler in the last few minutes of a birthday party, you know, that moment right before the melt down.

🟡 Your get up and go has gone, skedaddled and vamoosed over the horizon.

🟡 You’re on the interview merry go round, your facial muscles are aching from all the smiling and being positive is just soooo exhausting.

So, the good news is that it won’t set you back the cost of a kidney.

Or a ticket to Bali.

This is what you need.

5 sheets of paper.

A pen.

That’s it.

Nice, huh?

And this is what you do.

At the top of each page write down the title “Confident Me.”

And I can hear you thinking “But I’m feeling like sh*t, Mica, did you not get that?!”

I did.

But trust me.

Connect with your best self

Underneath “Confident Me” write down the title of one example of when you did something that you felt really confident about.

You were in the zone.

On top of the world.

For example:

🟡 Learned (enough) French to allow me to get a transfer to the Paris office.

🟡 Got Grade 8 on the piano.

🟡 Won a Marketing award.

You get the idea.

Keep it specific.

On each page under your title, write down 1 – 10 on the left-hand margin.

Now fill in each number with what you did to achieve this brilliant, sparkly thing.

Think skills.

Actions completed.

Decisions made.

Risks taken.

Targets reached.

Or smashed.

In each of these 10 points you should write a sentence.

Or two.

Keep it short.

The idea is to capture what you did from a kind of helicopter level.

How to remember that you are resilient

Don’t get bogged down in details or go all forensic.

Now, complete this exercise 5 times.

And you will then have 5 stellar examples of your skills and strengths.

And a reminder of your growth mindset.

And that you are resilient.

You just might not feel like that resilience at this moment.

Because there was one day when you hadn’t done these 5 amazing things.

Meaning that you’re already used to developing your skills and knowledge… which in turn develops your confidence.

And it’s also a reminder that although your confidence and self-esteem might be on its knees right now, this will pass.

It will.

In the meantime, go and get 5 pages of paper and pen.

And a mug of something nice to drink.

Find a quiet space to do this.

And let me know how you get on.